Life's FAQs :)

One of the many things that I am learning and . yet to learn, is on self assertion. Being assertive without getting emotional.
Which brings me to think about learning about alternate modes of communication, apart from the time honoured verbal / written paths.
Communicate without bias. Should you always be truthful? Does it work in the corporate ladder? Is buttering the boss the only way up? Does lying mean a temporary loss of values> or is it ok ? atleast lying to your little one once in a while on why she should not be eating chocolates? Or why the ‘demon’ would take her away if she doesn’t eat / sleep on time > Are little lies ok in comparison to the bigger ones?
Is it ok that you plan an annual vacation, nay holiday for almost a month, and come back more disillusioned than ever?
Is it true that somebody cannot teach you how to be street smart at 30? Or that if you don’t learn how to, you are lost in the corporate war?
Does your family matter more than the job you hold? Is the value of the money you bring in more than the power of financial freedom that you lose while giving up your job?
Is individualism more important than team – at home or office? Or does ur opinion count everytime?
Is it ok for ur BMI to be a little (read a little more) above than normal and you are still functionally strong and robust? And therefore, is it necessary for every (married) woman on planet earth to fit into Size “medium”.. isn’t large or XL a size too !?? J
Do you necessarily have to forget and forgive every person / incident from your past? Would you rather let the past haunt you for those tender innocent memories than deal with the drudgeries of the past?
Does money really make man? Isnt it true that class needs money, but can money buy class??
Like all other anomalies in life, aren’t relatives in life ‘relative’ too?

Even friends from the past dont seem to re-kindle that 'comrade' feeling anymore... or is it that I reticent to open up mentally? I mean, it was really nice catching up after many many years, but has our careers been traded for 'companionship'?

So:
>>Even if you bungle up a vacation, doesn’t matter. Hasn’t Chetan Bhagat said: At the most you have 2500 weekends in life, do you really have to take life seriously
>>Apart from EMIs , there is nothing else that you need to be paranoid about (unless we have an Indian sub prime growing in our backyard)
>>Its ok to be working mother, and still not spend ‘adequate’ time with ur child on weekends if u don’t feel like doing so.
>>Spouse, kids and parents should not be telling you to do things you are not comfortable
>>Its just about ok if you don’t fit into (Indian size) 36 ; 40 still will do just fine
>>Religion cannot be substituted with tradition the same way devotion with temples!!

So. Get into your jeans. Relax. Watch a mushy movie. Drink(lots of water). Eat nice healthy food. Shop a while. Watch your kid grow one more week old. Help yourself to a nice facial. Massage hubby’s back. Help mom….

Whew !! I just did it again !! pile on !!! :-) but isn’t that the way life goes on ,. For the next 1800 odd weekends in life (and much less if you don’t have a 5 day week !! Chetan I suppose did !! )

Ciao.. and see you soon…ok , ok , before you go, Tagore's immortal poem below " Where the mind is without fear" :

WHERE the mind is without fear and the head is held high
Where knowledge is free
Where the world has not been broken up into fragments
By narrow domestic walls
Where words come out from the depth of truth
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection
Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way
Into the dreary desert sand of dead habit
Where the mind is led forward by thee
Into ever-widening thought and action
Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.